The 25th Anniversary of The Little Mermaid and The Demise of Mark Driscoll

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I know, how could I possibly pair seemingly unrealistic topics of my childhood favorite Disney movie and Mark Driscoll? Continue reading. It shall all make sense in due time.

My blogging rants have previously spanned to the topics of Mark Driscoll and Disney (e.g., here, here, and here).

In the last few months, a lot has gone on in the world of Mark Driscoll (MD) and Mars Hill, Driscoll’s Seattle-base mega-church. While the purpose of this blog post is not to summarize what all has transpired, I will catch you up to speed here:

The quick summary: Shit went down. MD resigned and Mars Hill has disbanded.

The longer summary: The trouble started when MD got into some trouble regarding posts he made 14 years ago under the pseudonym of William Wallace II to attack “emerging-church-type feminists and liberals.” Why this happened to resurface after 14 years I have no idea, as Driscoll’s last year has hardly been clean, including controversies with possible plagiarism and allegations of paying off NYT best-sellers list. Somehow, the conglomeration of controversy spiraled in the last few months and resulted in the following: Acts 29, the church-planting organization Driscoll himself started, kicked out Mars Hill from its organization (major burn to MD) –> MD resigned from Mars Hill, saying he didn’t want to take away from the church mission, yada yada –> Mars Hill chose to disband.

This is HUGE in evangelicalism.

HUGE.

MD has been (with some exceptions) America’s evangelical, manly-man, neo-Reformed, social-media-savvy sweetheart. He captured the lives and hearts of thousands of Mars Hill goers. I myself, as I admitted in previous MD posts, used to listen to his podcasts. He is a captive speaker, quick with words, quick-witted, and relevant. Churches were planted. Good things happened. I do not want to negate the good things.

Do I believe that MD loves Jesus? I think that he does.

Do I think that MD bettered the city of Seattle and beyond? I think he did.

Now onto why I’m really writing about this story.

I am going to try really hard not to kick MD when he’s down. MD has long been controversial, and specifically what gets me going, are his homophobic and sexist comments that have been plentiful and sadly influential. Anyone who mocks effeminate worship leaders on Twitter is going to get a mouthful from me.

I saw the way this impacted others. Attending a Mars Hill campus in person in 2011, I was horrified to find every other woman pregnant and blonde and gorgeous. Every guy was ripped and strangely Driscoll-like in physical appearance. Everyone was white.

My own church when I lived in California preached out of MD’s book Real Marriage, a book filled with questionable antidotes such as one regarding a woman’s haircut pleasing her husband. This was the book also associated with a  plagiarism/ NYT best-sellers list scandal.

When MD resigned, Mars Hill leadership wrote the following: “Pastor Mark has never been charged with any immorality, illegality or heresy. Most of the charges involved attitudes and behaviors reflected by a domineering style of leadership.”

Uh…….?

How exactly are we defining immorality?

What is to be said for so many previous MD followers in therapy from attending Mars Hill and being subjected to degrading “church discipline” for being, for instance, a stay at home dad!!!! (GASP)?

What is to be said for the numerous controversial, hurtful comments that MD has said via Twitter or in personal conversations?

Those are moral because… MD believes that Jesus is God? And his doctrine is in line with certain standards?

Rachel Held Evans, in a typically eloquent post on Facebook yesterday, wrote the following:

It surprises me sometimes how people who are cruel and unkind get a pass on rude behavior from Christians because “at least their theology is sound.” But your theology is only as sound as the fruit of the Spirit it produces. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control – both Jesus and the apostle Paul taught that THESE are the things to look for when assessing whether someone is preaching the true gospel or a false one. I am so much more inclined to listen and learn from a teacher who exhibits these traits than those who may be highly credentialed whose fruit is bitter.

I think we as the church need to take a long, hard look at what fruit we are producing and the ramifications it has on others. There is this archaic idea that heresy means what you believe or cheating on your wife. I think this blog gets it. At the end of it, the writer, Kristen Howerton, says:

“It’s time we examine the negative ramifications to long-standing microaggressions, misogyny, and verbal abuse as seriously as we would embezzling or sexual misconduct from a church leader.”

Exactly.

More later but first…

NOW ONTO THE LITTLE MERMAID. 

The 25th anniversary of everyone’s favorite classic was this week. Growing up, I was obsessed with Ariel, as was every late 80s-90s girl. I had my Ariel Halloween costume and Ariel dolls and barbies and Ariel EVERYTHING.

I LOVED THE LITTLE MERMAID. Who didn’t? Cute, clever, catchy, adorable. A success for Disney, a success for mankind.

It wasn’t until I saw this Second City clip several years ago that I got to thinking:

What messages was this movie really teaching me?

Maybe not the 1st… or 100th… or 1000th… time that I saw that movie at age 4 would I think differently, but I wonder… what kinds of things did I implicitly learn?

I wonder… what we would find if we did a study on young girls before and after watching The Little Mermaid? Specifically, I wonder whether we would find that little girls are less likely to want to be a woman president or the effect a movie such as that would have on their ambitions and views of womanhood.

And as someone who has had an eating disorder for 13 years and is sensitive to weight-based discrimination, this movie is SO FRUSTRATING! Ariel is practically a mass-disseminated cartoon pro-ana figure, so much so that this PERFECT “Realistic Movie Trailer” renames the movie, The Little Waistline. And how fitting that the villain is a fat old woman. Perpetuating decades of stigma against older women and showing young girls that FAT IS BAD.

I read the host of perky articles that come out on the day that The Little Mermaid turned 25, and I tried to relive my childhood love of this movie. It didn’t work.

I know too much. I’ve been through too many years of therapy. I’ve battled too many companies selling pro-ana shirts, and we still haven’t had a woman president, and eating disorders are existing in unprecedented numbers. I have battled my entire life the voice that tells me to sell myself for society.

That started in childhood. THESE are the messages young girls get!!!!!

It’s not The Little Mermaid‘s fault, but does this movie perpetuate these messages, in my opinion? A resounding YES!

BRINGING IT TOGETHER

I told you I would bring it together. Now what could a middle-aged pastor from Seattle have to do with a movie about a mermaid?

Turns out, a lot (in my opinion).

Media, my friends, is an important thing. We are not untouched by what we fill our minds with; we are not untouched by what we watch or see or listen to or by the venues and organizations we attend.

Media is powerful, sometimes so subtle, you don’t realize how it’s slowly seeping into your consciousness, changing the way you see the world.

Both to Mark Driscoll and The Little Mermaid perpetuate some ugly stereotypes about the objectification of those who are different, whether it is those of different genders, sexual orientations, physical appearance, or anyone who you label as “the other.”

Sadly for evangelicals, Disney is stepping it up. Movies like Frozen and Brave are FAR (X 1000) better than movies like The Little Mermaid. I think Disney is learning their lesson. I am hopeful for today’s young girls, that they will be empowered to do WHATEVER it is they want to do, including achieving equal pay and other problematic society ills. I am hopeful that the movie Miss Representation and The Representation Project exist. I am hopeful because activist movie clips like THIS are going viral.

For evangelicals, I am not so sure. The oppression and discrimination of women and LGBTQ people is still prevalent is so many churches. And while The Little Mermaid turns 25 this year, MD JUST resigned. Apparently mocking stay-at-home dads and effeminate male worship leaders is still kosher in evangelicalism. So I guess the evangelical church is at least 25 years behind the rest of culture. Probably more than that.

I am not trying to be a hater, or promote a boycott of Disney/ Mark Driscoll. Like I admitted, I listened to Mark Driscoll. I loved (LOVED!!!!!!!!!) The Little Mermaid. If you like MD or old-school Disney movies, you know what, have fun. I will probably show my future daughter The Little Mermaid.

However, I think it’s well within my rights as a human to be critical of culture. I am in the field of mental health as a career, and I am an activist regarding body image, eating disorders, and gender-related concerns. And some of these things don’t sit well with me.

I am all too familiar with the scars that life leaves, and I am a fan of changing things so that people in the future can have a few less scars in life. So I’m going to leave you with the following thoughts:

For Disney lovers who show their little girls The Little Mermaid: If you must show your little girl this iconic movie, please have a discussion about it with her. She is SO much more than her body and selling and starving herself to please some hot dude (per the realistic movie trailer “white Aladdin”).

For evangelicals: Think before you preach, attend church, talk to others, and use the Bible to condemn. We need a movement based on love and acceptance, a movement that honors differences, and minimizes support groups needed for people in church. I mean GUYS how crazy is it that people should need to be in therapy or band together because of an oppressive church experience that leaves them feeling like scum. How much do you think Jesus is weeping because of that? MD’s popularity shows me how much we evangelicals are under the sea-– and many people don’t even know it.

Myths About Eating Disorders: Debunked

Knowledge is power, but when it comes to eating disorders, there is a lot of misinformation that is out there. Sadly, this lack of knowledge of accurate information about eating disorders can even extend to health care professionals. With conflicting messages about what is true, it can be hard to sort out what information is accurate.

Because I have lived now over half of my life with an eating disorder, I’ve learned a lot of stuff (mostly out of necessity), and I have become aware of some eating disorder myths and stereotypes that exist. In this post, I am going to go over a few of these myths and debunk them.

 

What are eating disorders?

Myth:

Anorexia means starving yourself and being emaciated. Bulimia is bingeing and purging. And… that’s all.

Reality:

Eating disorders are most commonly described as complicated biopsychosocial mental health conditions that impact all bodily symptoms, the brain, and can have devastating consequences such as death. The most commonly recognized eating disorders are: anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, and EDNOS/ OSFED (eating disorder not otherwise specified/ other specified feeding or eating disorder). Eating disorders involve some type of dysfunctional behavior(s) around food, including restricting food or caloric intake, fasting for long periods of time, using compensatory behaviors after eating such as purging, laxatives, diuretics, or overexercising, and/ or bingeing, or eating a large amount of food (of course there is social construction around what is considered “large”) in a discrete period of time.

Many eating disorder behaviors overlap. People who have suffered from an ED for a considerable length of time frequently experience diagnostic cross-over. Thus, these symptoms are neither clear-cut, nor are they necessarily noticeable. Eating disorder behaviors are often done in secret. Also, people with bulimia or binge eating disorder may not be over- or under- weight. Similarly, those who struggle with anorexia may not be emaciated.

It is important that people educate themselves about the impact of eating disorder behaviors and rely less on stereotypes of how eating disorders are culturally portrayed… namely how someone with an eating disorder “should” look or behave.

 

Who gets eating disorders?

Myth:

Privileged white adolescents.

Reality:

Anyone! While eating disorders are most represented in the media as occurring in Caucasian women of upper or upper middle class SES in a Western country, people of all races, sexual orientations, genders, economic statuses, and ages can develop eating disorders. There is a serious lack of representation of other eating disorder voices, which is why I’m really happy that this Marginalized Voices Project exists. We need to get better media representation of what eating disorders are like and who they affect.

Males, older women (40+), as well as people who are gay and of other racial groups, who have EDs are getting increased attention because—well, they get eating disorders too. Sadly, treatment is not necessarily tailored to them, and it needs to be.

 

What are the causes of eating disorders?

Myth:

Eating disorders are caused by Western media, trauma, families, or other environmental factors.

Reality:

Eating disorders cannot be pinpointed as being caused by one given factor. If you’ve ever taken a statistics class, maybe you’ll remember that correlation does not imply causation. Just because eating disorders exist (or are identified) in predominantly Western-influenced cultures, that doesn’t mean that culture CAUSES eating disorders.

Similarly, any risk and precipitating factors—a traumatic situation, an unhealthy family system—cannot be said to CAUSE an eating disorder. Perhaps these factors may increase the likelihood of an eating disorder developing, or they could be precipitating factors, but they are not the cause or fault of culture, or a family, or trauma.

I would also heed caution in that there has been an increase of media coming from companies such as Dove challenging cultural perceptions of body image. This is all good. I am a fan of challenging the oppressive body-image status quo. However, there is a difference between eating disorders and disordered eating or general body image issues. A girl might have negative feelings about her body from reading fitness magazines, but that is completely different from that girl developing a serious eating disorder.

Also, there is a significant biological basis of eating disorders that is still being explored. One study by Bulik and colleagues in 2006 suggests that anorexia is among one of the more heritable psychiatric disorders (0.56 as reported in her study).

All that to say, in general, there are a lot of unknowns when it comes to a cause or causes of eating disorders. My stats 101 lecture for the day: Be very, very careful about language pertaining to causation. Eating disorder research is being conducted because so little is understood still. There is not enough available knowledge to determine that something is a cause (or even causes) of an eating disorder. Talk about risk factors, talk about precipitating factors, talk about comorbid conditions, that’s fine. But talking about a cause suggests that 1+ factors completely explain the manifestation of someone’s eating disorder, and that is not something that can be said at this time.

 

What are the treatments for eating disorders?

Myths:

Once you have an eating disorder, you never get over it.

or 

You just need to eat.

Reality:

Eating disorders can be treatment resistant. I am living proof of that. However, treatment can also be effective. Recovery is possible. People don’t have to struggle with eating disorders forever and ever until they die. Recovery is not easy, and it may take time… a lot of time. Like years. Maybe more. But it can happen.

While eating disorders can be difficult to treat, certain treatments have been shown to be effective: CBT, DBT, family-based therapy, perhaps even acceptance and commitment therapy. I have more thoughts pertaining to this, but right now I will just say that there are some good options out there. I have been privileged to have seen a lot of great therapists who specialize in eating disorders, and I have been a part of treatment programs that have used all of the above treatment modalities.

People with eating disorders are not lost causes. They are not resistant, difficult, or frustrating. They are hurt and scared. They are in desperate need of empathy and understanding.

Notice that none of the treatment I have mentioned involves locking people up and force-feeding them. I had an acquaintance who once said, “If I got an eating disorder, my parents wouldn’t have put up with it. They would have just locked me in my room until I ate.” Honestly, good luck with that. Because I’m pretty sure that’s not addressing the problem. As in, I’m totally sure. That’s not going to work.

For whatever reason, people can have this mis-perception that the problem is the food, and all we need to do is make these people freaking eat. I both agree and disagree with that– it both is and isn’t about the food. I do not think that people can delve into root causes of their eating disorder while engaging in eating disorder behaviors, but I also don’t think that magically eating will fix everything.

So: there are some treatments that exist for eating disorders that work. Maybe the treatments that exist could be improved, but eating disorders are not untreatable.